Enhanced or fake beauty?

Bit of a rant but it's something that really annoys me, and seen as it's beauty related, I'm going to post about it!

One thing that really annoys me is the whole concept of  'Fakeness'. Think of the usuals:

Fake Tan

Hair Extensions

Fake Nails

False Eyelashes

....you get the picture! (Just to point out that I'm not really discussing surgery in this post - merely cosmetic, as I have no surgery myself so couldn't comment on this area.)

I have no problem at all with this 'Fakeness' - so let us know my position on this, yet it seems that a lot of girls do. I regularly wear fake tan, make up, but only usually a lot of make up and hair extensions when I go out. Yet in the past it has been enough to obviously 'offend' some people, who felt it fair to comment on how much make up I use, and how obviously 'fake' I am.

Fair enough, we all see someone that really goes to the extreme with the fakeness, but your general girl who uses fake tan, make up and hair extensions? Why so much hatred and abuse towards her? Is she hurting you? Or is she just prettier than you?

If I had £1 for every time I heard someone say, 'Yeah well you should see her without all her make up' or 'Natural beauty is best' - Yes, it is, I'm sure we'd all love to wake up with glossy and styled hair, smooth, radiant skin and lovely fluttery eyelashes wouldn't we? But the fact is, not many of us are that lucky, and we need a little help in the beauty department. Or so we all believe anyway....we're all our own worst critic. 

Even 'natural beauties' will mostly admit to you that it is simply cleverly applied make up to make it look like they are hardly wearing any! I'll openly admit that I don't have the 'natural look' down make up wise! It takes me just as long to make it look like I'm hardly wearing any make up, than it does to apply my full face of going out make up! So to me, what's the point? I'd rather just not wear any, and openly show the world that I am a scruff - and look nothing like my pictures on Facebook :)

Myself, I've had it all, as I used to also be platinum blonde. So the usual 'Barbie doll' comments were often aimed at me, so much that they didn't have an effect anymore. I knew that I didn't cake myself in make up everyday, I often felt that I should as I knew that I looked better with it but I simply couldn't be bothered to be made up everyday. My day-to-day life didn't alter because I wasn't wearing all my make up. In fact, I used to feel more self-conscious if I left the house in daylight wearing a full face of make up, hair extensions and fake tan, but this was due to the fact that I knew I'd receive looks, comments or both, and probably mostly negative. However, whenever certain people saw me, it was usually when I was dressed up to the max on a night out, or in Facebook pictures, which obviously show me at my best. So, in their eyes, that was me 100% of the time - obviously a fake person; inside and out.

So, the people totally against fakeness...what is their problem? What is a girl who wears a lot of make up actually doing to deserve a negative attitude towards her? One thing I will say is that the people directing the abuse aren't usually in a position to do so, without me being blunt!

So does it simply come down to jealousy? Are these girls jealous that they cannot apply make up as well, that they can't be bothered to apply make up as well, or do they genuinely have a hatred for cosmetics and anything 'fake'? If it is the latter, then they really all need to start backing up their arguments a little better. Because no one I've encountered who has slagged me off has been able to provide a good solid stand on why fake tan, make up and hair extensions is really harmful to their life...Fair enough if you think they're a waste of money, but if you really didn't care about it, you'd simply shrug it off and know that you spend your money in better ways. You wouldn't feel the need to slag someone off.

I'm a firm believer in - 'If it makes you feel good, use it.' If you love how you feel wearing fake tan and it gives you confidence, wear it! If you like wearing a lot of make up, use it! If deep down you know that you're hiding behind a mask as you think you're ugly without it, then that's a separate issue altogether.

I believe cosmetics enhance natural beauty, they don't create it. Cosmetics enhance features that are already present. So how someone can say, 'She's ugly without all that make up' really makes no sense at all. Maybe people who don't care for make up automatically assume that they won't like those that do, that they'll have nothing in common with them, that they're obviously not interested in anything other than their appearance...there are many assumptions that come associated with girls who are 'fake'. My advice? Stop being so judgemental. That girl...her whole world is not how she looks I can assure you, and your negativity or insults just show what an ugly person you are - inside.

And we all keep saying it's what inside that counts, don't we?

Jane Iredale - 'Purelash' Extender & Conditioner

Jane Iredale 'Purelash' Extender & Conditioner

My most recent love is for Jane Iredale 'Purelash' Extender & Conditioner. I received a sample of this in a previous Boudoir Prive/Joliebox box and loved it! I'm a fan of the mascara's with 'the white bit' on the end, or usually called the lash fortifier or conditioner. However, these double ended mascara's usually meant that the mascara itself run out quickly. So this is the perfect solution!




Jane Iredale states about this product:

Provides a much-needed step towards unbelievable lashes. When used to prime lashes for mascara, it adds measurable thickness and length and allows you to use less mascara. A single coat of this revolutionary formula before applying mascara will help strengthen, lengthen and thicken your lashes, making the mascara twice as effective.

• Algae extract conditions and protects lashes
• You will need to apply less mascara
• Stops lashes from drying out and splitting
• Allows lashes to grow to their fullest potential
• May even encourage extra growth

& believe me, it does! I have used this product with various mascaras; from expensive to cheap, and the effects are always good - amazing. You simply apply one thin coat to your lashes and wait until it is tacky (Not dry!) before you apply a chosen mascara.

In the photograph, I used Avon's 'Spectralash' mascara - one coat only! I usually needed three coats of the mascara to achieve the same effect.

For Stockists:

Jane Iredale

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My New Baby....to add to the others!

Let's get one thing straight....I'm a Cat Lady! Probably end up old with five of them hanging onto my legs but I love the little things! So most the people who know me, know that my kittycat children are a big part of my life...

Already I've got:

Squeak - 17year old man, grumpy, also known as 'Sir Squeak' or 'Sqwark', or 'Sqwonk' - Anything we fancy calling him - daft bat always answers. Adam's cat since he was 8, so he's been around the block a bit! Resembles Basil Brush, both in facial features & the trademark fluffy tail! Attention seeker, fluffball, odd meow, will rip your arm off if you touch his belly, likes to lie in leaves...

 

Little Brown Cat - or 'Brownie', for when we're too embarrassed to say we named a cat 'Little Brown Cat'. It just fit, ok? Little stray that first appeared with her leg stuck inside her collar...Adam soon warmed to her and bought her inside. She's scared of her own shadow, loves a fuss, and should have been a tortoise...as I'm sure if she could carry her little pet house around on her back and just keep popping her head out every now and again, she would! She once saved me from being eaten by a dragonfly though, so she's a keeper...

Mommy Cat - Another great name that just suited her! Poor little stray that used to live under the outside table at our old house. After worming her way into the garage, she eventually became a full fledged household member. Arch rival of Squeak, and known to bash Brownie around a bit. Went missing when I went back to stay with my mom and dad...I was absolutely heartbroken. So was my Dad! This is where the bond was formed I believe...Luckily, we found her. She ended up staying with Mom & Dad at the 'Retirement Home', fed tuna/other human meat everyday, fed cod liver oil capsules for her fur, and escorted down the garden so she doesn't run off again! I couldn't bear to break up such a relationship.....

& most recently; Cupcake.

This little bundle of gorgeousness was my valentine's present off my 'very in my good books' boyfriend. His reason for getting her for me? As I'd never had my own kitten, I'd always taken in strays and never had my own baby....awww!! She's a lovely grey British Shorthair with that cute, stubby nose and face like its been whacked with a spade. She's simply growing up at the moment & I adore her. She's already a little character who likes to dart around at 100mph, chew my shoes, ensure she wakes Adam up every night when going to the toilet, plays with a stupid pink mouse for hours on end (It doesn't even have a bell or squeaker!) and is currently signing her own death warrant by becoming too fascinated by Squeak's lovely, swishy tail...

New Blogger...

To be irreplacable, you must always be different….

Hi everyone :)

Here’s to my first blog post - always a bit awkward starting things off…So here goes:

I’m Hayley, 25 from Walsall in the West Midlands. I’m a University Support Worker which I love, as it means I get to sit in various lectures, learn a lot (Sometimes!), meet a lot of new people, mentor students and generally act like a student! I’m hoping to progress in this role, complete a Counselling qualification and continue to hopefully make a difference!

I’m a recent University graduate, having gained a First in my Policing and Criminal Investigation degree. Loved it but haven’t had any luck on the jobs front yet. Probably doesn’t help that I never want to be a police officer, hmm…

I used to model, loved that time of my life and glad I achieved as much as I did :) Plus I’ve got some nice pictures to look at and think, ‘God I looked like THAT?!’ I'll quite happily say that I generally look a scruff most days, but I know how to scrub up well ;) The modeling industry changed drastically, and I can honestly say that I wasn't prepared to do what needed to be done anymore, I stuck to my morals and values and ended my career on a high, which was a full page shoot in Loaded!

I live with my boyfriend of three years - Adam, in our lovely house that we’ve just bought :) Everyone who knows me and Ad knows our story, and it is a complicated one! I love him more than anything even though he can do my nut!!! We’re a cat family; with Adam’s cat Squeak, a stray we adopted - ‘Little Brown Cat’ and new addition, ‘Cupcake’ - my gorgeous British Shorthair (& also my Valentine’s present - brownie points for Ad!)
My family and friends are my life & I’d do anything for them! I’m wary of who I trust, and realised that many people aren’t worth my time, but I usually suss these people out pretty quickly ;)

I’m addicted to Beauty Products!! I buy whatever item takes my fancy, and I’m ashamed to admit that I usually believe all the stuff each product ‘claims’ to do! So this blog should include some reviews of my favourite products, and also some ones to be aware of! I’m a beauty box subscriber also (Boudoir Prive/Joliebox) and will review these products as and when I receive the boxes. I love them, as it’s like getting a little surprise every month, and what girl doesn’t like surprises ;)

I’m also a travel addict - I’d love to travel the world and mark off the places I visit on a map! I’ve got some amazing travel memories and will probably share some on here also :) My main fascination is with America, I'd love to take six months to travel around the whole country, so here's to winning the lottery!

Throw in a few general rants, a lot of pictures of my cats, random quotes and I think that’ll be my blog in a nutshell!

=D
Love, H xxx